A Look at Desire Discrepancy In Couples

Updated: May 31, 2019

In an ideal world, couples would always want the same things at the same time. But the reality is that we are all unique humans with unique desires, wants, and needs; some of which may conflict with those of our partner. Desire discrepancy is one of the most common issues couples face, and while it can be a difficult one to resolve, it’s not impossible.


What Is Desire Discrepancy?


Let’s start by defining desire discrepancy. Desire discrepancy occurs when two people in a relationship have varying levels of sexual desire. This may involve one’s sexual appetite as well as the type of sex they enjoy having. Often times, the beginning of a romantic relationship is exciting and filled with intimacy. But when the butterflies fade, couples may notice changes in their partner’s level of desire, or find that their own level of desire has increased or decreased. Although it may not be ideal for all involved, it’s normal for people’s libidos to lower a bit after the initial “sparks” have faded.


Who Does It Affect?